how to host your first dinner party
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So, you’ve decided to take the plunge into the world of hosting, and you’ve got a vision—a fabulous dinner party that’s not just about the food, but about creating an experience. Whether you’re a kitchen maven or a novice chef, hosting your first dinner party is a memory you’ll never forget!

In this guide, we’re not going to overcomplicate things. Instead, we’ll explore the ins and outs of hosting your very first dinner party. From crafting a guest list that’s as eclectic as your taste in music to navigating the world of table settings without losing your cool—this is your go-to source for turning your dinner party dreams into a reality.

So let’s dive into the art of hosting with confidence and flair. Welcome to the world of dinner parties—it’s time to make some memories!

Step 1: The Guest List

Creating a warm and inviting atmosphere begins with the people you invite. When curating your guest list, think about the diverse personalities that can contribute to a lively and engaging dinner party.

Here’s a few considerations you’ll want to think about when deciding on a guest list:

How many people can you comfortable seat in your home or apartment?

While it’s tempting to invite everyone you know, you’ll want to make sure that you can comfortably seat everyone you invite. Start thinking about what your seating arrangement will look like and how many people you’ll be able to fit to help you keep your guest list reasonable.

Consider keeping it intimate

Even if you do have a large house to host, consider the benefits of a smaller gathering. This can help make sure that your dinner party doesn’t become a party party.

A cozy gathering allows for more meaningful interactions and perserves the initimacy of dining together. In my experience, a party of 6-10 guests is often ideal. This size strikes a balance between intimacy and energy.

Mix and Match Friends Old & New

Is there a specific group you want to host? Work friends? College friends?

Why not both! One of the most magical things about hosting is bringing people from different circles together—consider mixing old pals with new acquaintances to spark interesting conversations and foster new connections.

Do any guest have dietary considerations?

When making your guest list, take note of any dietary restrictions or preferences your guests may have. This will make your life easier once you start planning a menu that all of your guest will love. It shows thoughtful consideration and ensures everyone enjoys the meal.


☑️ Make your guest list

☑️ Take note of any dietary restrictions

Step 2: The Invite

Now that you’ve carefully curated your guest list, it’s time to set the stage for an unforgettable evening with the perfect invitation. Your invite not only provides the essential details but also gives a sneak peek into the style and vibe of your dinner party.

Here’s how to create invitations that leave a lasting impression:

Choose a theme

Do you have to have a theme for your first dinner party? no. Does a theme make every party 10x better? In my opinion, yes 😆

Infuse a touch of personality into your invitation by including a theme that will reflect the ambiance of your dinner party. This will help get your guests excited & decide what to wear.

Some themes are subtle, and some are over the top, here are some ideas:

  • Garden Party
  • Jazz bar
  • Cozy Cabin
  • “Around the world”
  • Alice in Wonderland
  • Galentine’s Day/ Valentine’s Day
  • Wine Country
  • Pajama Party

With websites like Canva or Paperless Post, you can create eye catching invitations to match your chosen theme.

Digital or classic?

It’s time to consider how you’ll send out your dinner party invites, and you have a few different options:

  • Paper invites: There truly is something special about getting an invitation for an event in the mail. If you go this route, you can find some amazing (and themed) invitations on Mint. Or, you can create your own & print them in Canva. If you’re sending paper invitations, don’t forget to include clear RSVP instructions to make your life easier.
  • Facebook invite: Facebook is one of the best ways to send virtual invites because everyone has one, and you’re more likely to have a friend’s Facebook than their email! This is great because it gives your guests an easy way to RSVP and you can provide updates to everyone in a super easy way.
  • Evites: There are so many free tools for sending Evites. These are often customizable, get delivered via email, and usually let people RSVP right on the platform. Digital invites can be not only eco-friendly but also convenient for quick responses, so it’s a great way to go!

Include essential details

Ensure your invitations cover the basics:

  • 📅 date
  • ⏰ time
  • 📍location
  • 👕 dress code
  • 🍾 anything you want your guests to bring? (ie. appetizer, beverage, or desserts)


☑️ Decide on a theme

☑️ Send out invitations

Step 3: The Gear

Now that you’ve got invitations for your dinner party, it’s time to gather the essential gear that will help you bring your vision to life. From elegant table settings to atmospheric lighting, here’s a curated list of gear to ensure your dinner party is a seamless and sophisticated affair:

Tableware, Silverware, & Glassware

Depending on how many guests you’ll have, you may be able to use what you already have for your plates, bowls, cups, & silverware. Otherwise, you may need a few new things.

Honestly, there’s some really nice looking plasticware available these days, which will make cleanup so much easier. Not to mention, you can get some that matches your theme!


Centerpieces & Decor

You don’t necessarily need this step, but consider a little bit of decor can elevate your dinner party quite a bit. Here are a few of my personal favorite decorations for a dinner party:

Extra Tables & Chairs

Do you have enough space at the table for all of your guests? If you have a larger guest list and you’re worried about space, consider splitting the party into 2 tables & spread out. This will be much more comfortable that being squished.

Even just a folding table and chairs can be dressed up with a nice tablecloth and decor.


☑️ Make a list of gear you’ll need

Step 4: The Menu

Now comes the fun part: Planning your menu. This step can get a bit overwhelming if it gets out of hand. Here’s a few tips:

  • Stay true to yourself: What do you like to make and have experience making? It’s better to prepare something authentic and something that you like than something you think will impress others.
  • Keep it simple: Consider the effort of each recipe you pick— if they’re all a 10/10 on the difficulty scale, you’re going to make your life harder than it needs to be. Balance some simpler recipes with some that may take more effort. Also, try to pick some that you can prep for in advance!

There are really no rules when it comes to a menu, but for a typical dinner party, here’s what to plan for:

Remember, you can always ask your guests to pitch in if you want to make your life a bit easier!


☑️ Design your dinner party menu

Step 5: The Prep work

A well-executed prep plan is essential to ensure a smooth and enjoyable evening. Here’s a detailed guide to help you organize your prep work for your first dinner party:

One week before:

  • Finalize your menu: Confirm the final menu and make a detailed shopping list for ingredients.
  • Buy decor & tableware: Order anything extra you’ll need for the party to make sure you have everything you need. Also a good time to buy any non-perishable items & beverages.

Three days before:

  • Purchase fresh produce, seafood, and meats.
  • Prepare any sauces, dressings, or marinades in advance. Store them in airtight containers in the refrigerator.

Two Days Before

  • Begin prepping dishes that can be made in advance and stored, such as soups, sauces, or desserts.

One Day Before

  • Set the table with linens, tableware, and any decorative elements. Ensure sufficient seating and comfortable spacing.
  • Cook dishes that can be reheated without compromising quality. Assemble salads without dressing.
  • Pick the perfect dinner party playlist.

Day Of:

  • Complete any last-minute cooking, focusing on dishes that require freshness, like salads.
  • Reheat pre-prepared dishes, ensuring they are plated beautifully before serving.
  • Make labels for each dish & it’s ingredients so people know what to expect.

Step 6: Party Time!

Now, don’t forget to enjoy your dinner party as much as your guest will! Take a step back and enjoy the company of your guests. And be proud of your self for all the work you put in to make your dinner party come true!

During your dinner party, here’s a few special touches that will make your guests feel welcome & cared for:

  • Greet guests: Welcome each guest with a warm smile and a gracious greeting. Offer them a drink as they arrive.
  • Coat check: Designate an area for coats and bags.
  • Keep track of time: Give your guests guidance on when it is time to seat themselves, start eating, and have dessert.

Step 7: Clean up

My favorite dinner party hack? Get some to-go boxes & send your guest home with leftovers at the end of the night. Not only is it a nice gesture, but it helps with cleanup!

Keep in mind that people will likely offer to help clean up, and it’s okay to accept their help! You’ve done a lot. A cleanup crew can really speed things up.

Reflect and Share Memories:

Take a moment to reflect on the evening’s success. Share memories, photos, and anecdotes with your guests through a follow-up message or thank-you card.

As the good times from your dinner party fade, remind yourself: hosting isn’t about putting on a show. It’s about enjoying real connections and soaking up the joy of being with friends & family.

Whether your table is adorned with fine china or casual dinnerware, what truly matters is the laughter, the camaraderie, and the memories woven into the fabric of the evening.

Cheers to the art of hosting, where the most exquisite moments are created by the warmth of genuine connections and the simple joy of shared time. 💕